Mar 18 2010

The Reconstruction Of Male-Female Relations In Developing Nations And Its Implications For Nation Building

Disclaimer: Although there exist exceptions to all types of generalizations and stereotypes, they remain exceptions; therefore, until the exceptions stand out to the extent that they defy the rule, the majority determines the actuality. That being said, I am grateful to know some anomalies who also happen to be my friends who are exceptional beacons for their communities and countries. Moreover, this article is at best a prologue to a possible research paper in need of further substantiating research.

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Mar 8 2010

Part 3 of 4: “All The King’s Horses and All The King’s Men…”

Where? What? When? How? Next?
Shedding light onto the most recent frequently asked questions from my closest friends to every other person…

In 2005 before I began law school we were required to finish the 800 page assigned reading, A Simple Justice, by a Pulitzer-Prize winning journalist. It is the story of Brown v. Board of Education. Yes, 800 pages long! Some read it, some did not. Some did not want to admit they read it and enjoyed it! I couldn’t put it down—if history was written with this much diligence and passionate research I would have majored in History instead of English in college! I bring this up to share a quote by Charles Houston (creator of Howard Law School) which is somewhere in the book that has left a permanent imprint on my psyche. This quote resonates with me on an unprecedented level and remains my guiding pillar:  “A lawyer is either a social engineer or a pest to society.”

I had worked as an educator prior to going to law school.  I wanted to expand on my education reform commitment, a dedication innately embedded in my blueprint ever since I can recall, even prior to any outside influence of “what do you want to be when you grow up?” I am told by my maternal grandfather that even before I started formal schooling, as soon as I would learn something, anything, I would teach another.

Somewhere in the middle of my last job within the legal field, I instantly knew I had to leave the “system.” I worked for a great judge but my interaction with him was minimal and those with whom I had to interact shook my very core. The system thrived on mediocrity and incompetence, generally speaking; pepper and sprinkle an exception to the rule here and there.

I remain passionate about the law; I see it as the most empowering tool and feel privileged to have the wealth of knowledge I have attained through it. However, I also knew last June, given my experiences, I did not envision myself practicing in the public sectors of federal, state, and city law, or firm practices as I had known them—all of which encompass approximately 75% of the practice of law. Of the 25% which are left, 15% paid less than what I would make as a teacher and would be more akin to the role of a social worker than a lawyer. Therefore, I decided to give myself a year to see how I wanted to utilize my law degree given my public interest background.

In my humble view, ‘leaving the system’ is not really ‘beating the system’ yet I did not want to feel like I was part of the ‘disease’ even if I could never fully feel part of a ‘solution.’ This is not to say there is no value in working for the federal, state, city, or firm sectors, but at that point in my life, the value offered did not align with the value I sought.

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Dec 2 2009

Intention

A Conversation with Peter Senge and Charles Holmes

Might we come to understand this paradox more fully by discerning the difference between our intentions and our visions or goals?

Yes, – if we consider the nature of true or deeper intention. What I mean by this is that if you ask people to state an intention, they will usually describe a particular goal.

There is a trap here I believe.  I think it is possible to have what you regard as a very strong vision, but yet not be clear about your deeper intention or what it means to align with that.  And then you can get very attached to that vision. Your mind is locked in on a particular objective. There is nothing wrong with this; it’s a natural state of affairs, but it can make you rigid to what is actually emerging around you.

By contrast, consider the premise that it is not possible to become attached to your intention. You can get attached to a goal. If you suddenly start to think, “this might not happen”, fear arises and, with it, a tendency to manipulate things to get what you want. This manipulation is an automatic by-product of the attachment.

You cannot get attached to a pure intention because you can’t be attached to who you are. You can only become attached to an ideal of who you are, such as a way I think I should look. It is pretty easy to get attached to that. But who I am is who I could not not be. How do you become attached to something that you could not not be?  If your deeper intention is an inseparable part of who you are, it is not capable of attachment.

I don’t think you can seek to accomplish your intention. You live out of your intention; it is like the wind, the life force from which your energy and determination arises, whereas your vision is a particular destination you really want to reach.

So, as best I can understand, the heart of the dynamic of being truly committed and nonattached is to anchor in your deeper intention and focus your energies on realizing your vision while at the same time l knowing that the vision is at best a reflection of your deeper intention.

So, you are saying that that it is possible to be truly committed and not attached?

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Nov 20 2009

South Africa and HIV

I have picked up a new friend to spend time with on Sundays in Jo’burg: the newspaper,  Sunday Times.

One of my favorite columnists is a woman named Pinky Khoabane.

On Sunday, November 15th, I read her short but bold piece titled “A Pandemic of Body, Mind, and Soul” which rightfully calls people to have a deeper dialogue regarding the AIDS pandemic in Africa, specifically South Africa. You can check out the article here:   A Pandemic of Body, Mind, and Soul. “Awareness” is no longer the primary issue–then what is?

Below were my thoughts after reading the article:

Dear Ms. Khoabane,

Do you have any friends? No, I am not being facetious. Do you have any real-life friends besides the likes of me who may admire you for your boldness from afar? Individuals who actually have the courage to participate in a conversation that reveals how they are or are not responsible for the “broken social fabric”? How many, besides you, can hold the space of the audacious truths in your latest article without looking away from the fact that their own “friends” might be welding this very social fabric? A “real” conversation regarding this is decreasing at a frequency that is beyond alarming. I know that the diverse company of individuals (ethnically and of varying social stratum) where I centrifuge the fundamentals are dismissed as criticism given I am a New Yorker docked in South Africa for the moment.

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Sep 27 2009

Schools versus Education: what is it that we want to teach?

I came across this incredible article on education. It really says it all—my entire personal education experience in the United States, then teaching experience, and Master’s coursework (including law school experience) can be summed up in this article below.

Prior to moving to the  United States, Zain and I had been significantly home schooled due to the type of schools that were available in the the small desert town where we lived in the Middle East. All our books were imported from England. However, our homeschooling was without any proper “credentialing” as done in the US. Only when looking back on it do I consider Zain and I as thankful for the homeschooling we received. Initially we felt there must be a lacking because we never fit in with the mainstream young adults (not just Zain and I, but all four of us have walked our own path regardless how tumultous or how hard we tried to resist). We were light years ahead of our American peers and were critical thinkers from a very young age. This also meant we had a very difficult time assimilating. For the longest time we thought it had to do with the fact that we were brown or any other type of different when now I realize that was only a fragment of the issue. We had had the most unique childhood. Period.

Education and Law are two extremely empowering degrees that I have been blessed and privileged to attain. I am indebted to the Universe for allowing me my current opportunity to step back and engage in this hiatus (which is a burden and a relief, some nights are dark but the reward is hopeful days or vice versa) to juxtapose how best to work WITHIN a system (law and/or education) which aims to create mass consumers who can not think for themselves.

When you have time, please do read this. Moreover, if you want to just skim, I have highlighted some sections for your convenience.

Why Schools Don’t Education by John Taylor Gatto.

Some excerpts from it:

Without children and old people mixing in daily life, a community has no future and no past, only a continuous present. In fact, the term “community” hardly applies to the way we interact with each other. We live in networks, not communities, and everyone I know is lonely because of that.

I don’t think we’ll get rid of schools any time soon, certainly not in my lifetime, but if we’re going to change what’s rapidly becoming a disaster of ignorance, we need to realize that the institution “schools” very well, but it does not “educate”; that’s inherent in the design of the thing. It’s not the fault of bad teachers or too little money spent. It’s just impossible for education and schooling to be the same thing.

Schools are intended to produce, through the application of formulas, formulaic human beings whose behavior can be predicted and controlled.

To a very great extent, schools succeed in doing this. But our society is disintegrating, and in such a society, the only successful people are self-reliant, confident, and individualistic — because the community life that protects the dependent and weak is dead. The products of schooling are, as I’ve said, irrelevant. Well-schooled people are irrelevant. They can sell film and razor blades, push paper and talk on telephones, or sit mindlessly before a flickering computer terminal, but as human beings they are useless — useless to others and useless to themselves.”