Mama says it is to men’s advantage to recognize the reservoir of strength that is a woman (regardless of a man’s sexual preference). But in order to achieve this, she says, it demands a lot of deconstruction which begins by looking beyond a woman’s physical appearance and a man’s attachments to conscious and unconscious roles she is supposed to play. But that deconstruction can begin only when a woman is able to see herself beyond her physical appearance. She also says that unfortunately the stereotypes that exist about women exist because majority of the women are not strong enough to break them. If you look a certain way, you must be flirtatious. If you have ambition, ... read more »
Value your friendship with the other person first and foremost. Remember it is what you make out of the relating with another. Don’t assume things. Don’t compare things. Communicate and respect each others’ opinions. Always keep in mind HOW things can be worked…without quitting one another…unfortunately, Western media has colored relationships as all sweet and honey with no issues or simply as bitter with conflicts.
Human beings will always stay bonded if they are governed by similar ideologies and a similar value system, despite the fights and conflicts.
read more »Mama said to my aunt who was over for brunch earlier today, “They* are all Peter Pans when they step in this house. Maximum age is twelve.”
This is in reference to a ‘noise’ they heard–which would be me screaming with joy like a five year old might upon his or her first sight of a caterpillar. I was just too happy to find the ‘right word.’
It is challenging not to halt the thoughtflow when writing when one is looking for the right word. It feels especially difficult to me because, in my view, the English language is one of the most limited when it comes to expressing certain sentiments. Perhaps therein lies its beauty: ... read more »
Mama says that she doesn’t know many “guaranteed facts” of life but this: whatever you do not appreciate or are ungrateful for God/Universe takes from you. She wants to make sure I understand she is not talking about death–this is not that conversation. She says what she is referring to is blessings–material or through the caring of another. She says this is especially true when it comes to love in any form with any one in any type of relating. By love she means caring, sharing, and all forms that we know for a fact are not an abstraction but tangible mediums. She says love is an exchange of energy; it has to “go further”…it can’t ... read more »
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